Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Thanksgiving Blessings
Happy Thanksgiving to all of our family. May you continue to be blessed and enjoy the holiday!
Love The Cameron Family...
Scott, Jasmine, Jacelyn and Isaiah
Friday, November 9, 2012
Thursday, November 8, 2012
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Monday, November 5, 2012
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Friday, October 5, 2012
Honestly or Ass Hole...
So in the world of Celebrity... Chris Brown ended his nearly 2 year relationship with Karrachue Tram because of his reconnection with Rihanna.
Now I usually dont dabble too much in stuff like this but it makes you wonder a little bit... If the relationship with Rihanna went the way it did (Constant Arguing, Assant Charges, The Photo seen around the world of Abuse) why go back down that road again? What happens to the person who was by your side all this time that is now heartbroken....
What would you do in his shoes....
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Monday, October 1, 2012
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Friday, September 14, 2012
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
What Part of the Tree are you?
I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever...They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:
LEAF PEOPLE
Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.
BRANCH PEOPLE
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.
ROOT PEOPLE
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.
Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?
THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".
LEAF PEOPLE
Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can't depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can't be angry at them, it's just who they are.
BRANCH PEOPLE
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it's possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it's tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can't handle too much weight. But again, you can't be mad with them, it's just who they are.
ROOT PEOPLE
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don't let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.
Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people's lives?
THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, "thanks for being my root".
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Spinning
Here lately I feel like my words are not really heard and not felt. I try my best to be a better me but somehow.... I just dont know.
I hope it gets better with time and patience.
I hope it gets better with time and patience.
Monday, August 27, 2012
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
May You
Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.
Friday, August 10, 2012
Dear Irene
Dear Irene,
I hope that you are enjoying your birthday in heaven. I wish that you were here to see all the things that I have done and see me as a bride. I know that from up above, you are watching it all unfold and I hope it puts a smile on your face. Nothing would make me happier than to know that you ar proud. I hope to see you again one day and have some good ole' Peach Cobbler.
I Love You!
Your Grand Daughter,
Jasmine
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Monday, August 6, 2012
2 words... Gabby Douglas!
The girl dubbed "The Flying Squirrel" has been so surreal to watch. She is graceful, talented and one of the latest people to be added to my Shero list!!
Thursday, August 2, 2012
I need to be me again...
I feel like there is so many things going on in my life and I cant say how I feel. I put on a smile and keep my head forward and tears on my pillow.
Lord be with me through my journey and make me a better woman.
Lord be with me through my journey and make me a better woman.
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
National Girlfriends Day!
I am only as strong as the coffee I drink,
the hairspray I use
and the friends I have.
To the cool women who have touched my life.
Here’s to you!
National Girlfriends Day
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Friday, July 20, 2012
It's on you, Sis
Dear God:
this is my friend, whom I love and this is my prayer for her
Help her live her life
to the fullest.
Please promote her
and cause her to excel
above her expectations.
Help her to shine
in the darkest places
where it is impossible
to love.
Protect her at all times,
lift her up when she needs
you the most,
and
let her know when
she walks with you,
She will always
be safe.
Love you Girl!
this is my friend, whom I love and this is my prayer for her
Help her live her life
to the fullest.
Please promote her
and cause her to excel
above her expectations.
Help her to shine
in the darkest places
where it is impossible
to love.
Protect her at all times,
lift her up when she needs
you the most,
and
let her know when
she walks with you,
She will always
be safe.
Love you Girl!
Monday, July 16, 2012
Just one of them days....
I have days where I wish I could just say how I feel and not feel bad about it... Today is one of those days.
Thursday, July 12, 2012
SUPERWOMAN SYNDROME
SUPERWOMAN SYNDROME:
Are Black Women Killing Themselves to be Strong?
When Alicia Keys released her hit single, “Superwoman,” it became an anthem of sorts to every woman who bravely takes on the balancing act that is life while holding down multiple fronts. As Keys floats over the melodic beat declaring, “even when I’m a mess/I still put on a vest with an S on my chest,” it is surely a noble sentiment for all who applaud perseverance in the face of difficulties. Yet, as inspirational as the song may be, can this mindset be be taken to the extreme? If we are out to conquer the world each day even in our moments of mental and/or physical weakness and fatigue, could we be doing ourselves a disservice?
For Black women this notion is nothing new. It’s an idea and ideal that can be summed up in three words: the "strong Black woman." Built Ford tough, this archetype has been tossed around and reverenced as the equivalent and standard of Black womanhood. Yet unlike those pesky stereotypes we often find ourselves trying to negate, our relationship to this subjective title is somewhat peculiar. Many wear the SBW title as a badge of honor; or seek to live up to it. While others denounce it as a myth, citing that it enforces an unrealistic ideal. Despite our various attitudes and opinion on what it means to be a “Strong Black Woman,” it has undoubtedly had a significant impact on us culturally.
The notion of the strong Black woman has made way for what many of us struggle with today: "Superwoman syndrome" (don’t feel bad, Alicia). Powered by the concept of the SBW, the Superwoman syndrome is the mindset that tells us that we're not grinding if we're not missing sleep and stressed out, or that our lives as women must involve an unhealthy degree self-sacrifice. The idea of the SBW and the Superwoman were explored fully by Michele Wallace's 1980 classic Black Macho and the Myth of the Superwoman and in 1998 by Joan Morgan's When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost.
Strength is subject to opinion. However our ability to persevere, be resourceful, and overcome great obstacles is undeniable. But these truths should not be manipulated in a way that we praise self-destructive behavior. It’s hard to believe that one adjective could ever capture any woman, nor should any woman live life trying to fit into said mold. Do we truly have to take on the world each day? Could it be that when we think we are putting on our heroic vest, we are really putting on a mask and trying to live up to a false ideal? And could the way we perceive strength actually be our kryptonite?
I have seen many women in my life literally become ill from taking on everyone’s problems; counseling family and friends, working multiple jobs, taking in children, housing relatives--essentially catering to everyone else's needs but their own. In my personal life I have struggled not to overextend myself, all while the temptation to appear unbreakable and the desire to help others pulls me towards the deep end from time-to-time. By simply learning from the struggles of those around me, it has become clear that if one is not careful, this behavior and state of mind can negatively affect our emotional and physical health.
Safiyya Shabazz, M.D. owner/Medical Director of Fountain Medical Associates, PC, says this mindset can greatly impact our health:
“At a minimum this mindset influences health behaviors that lead to lead to heart disease and other lifestyle related illnesses. Before even considering the effects of stress on the hormonal systems in the body, you can look at the obvious factors: women who are stretched to the limit, trying to do it all often neglect their own health while caring for others. We try to be good parents and wives, excel in our careers, and serve our community, all while looking like we just stepped off of the cover of [a magazine].”
Known as "the silent killer," heart disease is currently the number one cause of death for women in the U.S., with Black women being at greater risk for heart disease, stroke and other cardiovascular diseases, according to the American Heart Association.
“A common thread amongst the stressed out women I care for is that we do not prioritize our health. Everything and everyone else comes first,” says Dr. Shabazz. “Stress is not the stuff going on in your life. Those are stressors. Stress is how we react to those situations both mentally and physically. When everything else is more important than your very survival, it is time to take a step back and make some changes ... adopt a new motto, ‘Self first, then others.’ Learn the value of saying ‘No’ or ‘I'm not available’. Simple things like that can help you avoid unnecessary
stress and make you less likely to make unhealthy choices at the last minute.”
The key roles that women play in our family units, social circles, communities, workplaces, and society in general could never be downplayed. And our strength and resilience can not be understated. However, it can be overstated. While sisters have undoubtedly stepped up to the plate and dealt with realities others may not have been able to face, we should not become accustomed to spreading ourselves too thin. It’s not to say that we should be afraid to soar through life with a ‘can do it’ spirit, but we must strive to remember that even planes have to come down for fuel.
Are Black Women Killing Themselves to be Strong?
When Alicia Keys released her hit single, “Superwoman,” it became an anthem of sorts to every woman who bravely takes on the balancing act that is life while holding down multiple fronts. As Keys floats over the melodic beat declaring, “even when I’m a mess/I still put on a vest with an S on my chest,” it is surely a noble sentiment for all who applaud perseverance in the face of difficulties. Yet, as inspirational as the song may be, can this mindset be be taken to the extreme? If we are out to conquer the world each day even in our moments of mental and/or physical weakness and fatigue, could we be doing ourselves a disservice?
For Black women this notion is nothing new. It’s an idea and ideal that can be summed up in three words: the "strong Black woman." Built Ford tough, this archetype has been tossed around and reverenced as the equivalent and standard of Black womanhood. Yet unlike those pesky stereotypes we often find ourselves trying to negate, our relationship to this subjective title is somewhat peculiar. Many wear the SBW title as a badge of honor; or seek to live up to it. While others denounce it as a myth, citing that it enforces an unrealistic ideal. Despite our various attitudes and opinion on what it means to be a “Strong Black Woman,” it has undoubtedly had a significant impact on us culturally.
The notion of the strong Black woman has made way for what many of us struggle with today: "Superwoman syndrome" (don’t feel bad, Alicia). Powered by the concept of the SBW, the Superwoman syndrome is the mindset that tells us that we're not grinding if we're not missing sleep and stressed out, or that our lives as women must involve an unhealthy degree self-sacrifice. The idea of the SBW and the Superwoman were explored fully by Michele Wallace's 1980 classic Black Macho and the Myth of the Superwoman and in 1998 by Joan Morgan's When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost.
Strength is subject to opinion. However our ability to persevere, be resourceful, and overcome great obstacles is undeniable. But these truths should not be manipulated in a way that we praise self-destructive behavior. It’s hard to believe that one adjective could ever capture any woman, nor should any woman live life trying to fit into said mold. Do we truly have to take on the world each day? Could it be that when we think we are putting on our heroic vest, we are really putting on a mask and trying to live up to a false ideal? And could the way we perceive strength actually be our kryptonite?
I have seen many women in my life literally become ill from taking on everyone’s problems; counseling family and friends, working multiple jobs, taking in children, housing relatives--essentially catering to everyone else's needs but their own. In my personal life I have struggled not to overextend myself, all while the temptation to appear unbreakable and the desire to help others pulls me towards the deep end from time-to-time. By simply learning from the struggles of those around me, it has become clear that if one is not careful, this behavior and state of mind can negatively affect our emotional and physical health.
Safiyya Shabazz, M.D. owner/Medical Director of Fountain Medical Associates, PC, says this mindset can greatly impact our health:
“At a minimum this mindset influences health behaviors that lead to lead to heart disease and other lifestyle related illnesses. Before even considering the effects of stress on the hormonal systems in the body, you can look at the obvious factors: women who are stretched to the limit, trying to do it all often neglect their own health while caring for others. We try to be good parents and wives, excel in our careers, and serve our community, all while looking like we just stepped off of the cover of [a magazine].”
Known as "the silent killer," heart disease is currently the number one cause of death for women in the U.S., with Black women being at greater risk for heart disease, stroke and other cardiovascular diseases, according to the American Heart Association.
“A common thread amongst the stressed out women I care for is that we do not prioritize our health. Everything and everyone else comes first,” says Dr. Shabazz. “Stress is not the stuff going on in your life. Those are stressors. Stress is how we react to those situations both mentally and physically. When everything else is more important than your very survival, it is time to take a step back and make some changes ... adopt a new motto, ‘Self first, then others.’ Learn the value of saying ‘No’ or ‘I'm not available’. Simple things like that can help you avoid unnecessary
stress and make you less likely to make unhealthy choices at the last minute.”
The key roles that women play in our family units, social circles, communities, workplaces, and society in general could never be downplayed. And our strength and resilience can not be understated. However, it can be overstated. While sisters have undoubtedly stepped up to the plate and dealt with realities others may not have been able to face, we should not become accustomed to spreading ourselves too thin. It’s not to say that we should be afraid to soar through life with a ‘can do it’ spirit, but we must strive to remember that even planes have to come down for fuel.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
LOVE YOU
I say
In my heart.
Yes, we must wait, for alone time
And togetherness forever.
So know, dearest, that
When I say
I love you
It means more than
Simply that.
I love you
Is that all I
Mean? Do I
Only love you
Or is it much
Deeper than that?
Or does it end with
Simply “love,” all
Feelings being wrapped
Up in that small word?
I know there is love
But what more is there?
What more is in that word
Inclusive? Love I’ve already
Mentioned, but I see much
More than that, friendship, trust
Happiness, togetherness, passion,
Faith, hope, dreams, loyalty,
Patience, laughter and that
Indescribable felling that you
Can only feel and know and understand
—You know—
And is emotion all there is?
What about yahtzee, and feathers
And hopping feet? What about
Stories and dreams and scenarios?
What about passionate love,
Love that exhilarates, excites and exuberates?
Love that inspires.
The kind of love that’s an adventure,
Full of twists and turns and
Unexpected trails. Trails which
Curious hikers and bears and spiders
Travel upon and around.
—You know what kind of love I’m talking about,
Dearest!
Of course you know- we are
One together through it all—
The fun parts of love and the hard parts.
Darling, just know that no matter what happens,
I’ll always love you and be there for you—
Like you’re there for me. Only patience and waiting
Will bring that which we want most—
You know—
You, who is forever and alwaysIn my heart.
Yes, we must wait, for alone time
And togetherness forever.
So know, dearest, that
When I say
I love you
It means more than
Simply that.
Friday, July 6, 2012
The Ultimate Foodie Guide To Summer: 100 Ways To Spend Your Vacation
Even if you're not on an academic schedule, the longer days of the season mean that you have way more time on your hands than usual. Which indicates that it's high time to stop drooling over blogs about backyard homesteading and actually do something. Welcome to the official Foodie Underground Guide to Summer, with a list of everything you ever wanted to do when it comes to food, and a few things you never thought of.
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
I DID IT!!!
So in an effort to be more domesticated and put a smile on Scott's face.. I decided to make my Sisters Famous Peach Cobbler. I didnt taste it but according to Scott and Jacelyn....IT WAS A HIT! Here are a few photos from my cooking experience.
Monday, July 2, 2012
Monday, June 18, 2012
Happy Fathers Day
Happy Fathers Day to my Dad and my Husband to be... The best Men a girl like me could have...
Friday, June 8, 2012
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Graduation message: Dear Digital Son ...
Graduation season is upon us, and words of wisdom
will be flowing to the class of 2012 in commencement speeches from boldface
personalities such as Michelle Obama,
Steve Wozniak and Steve Carell.
A little closer to home, I would like to offer a
few insights from my dying analog generation to one high school senior in
particular, who will soon be heading to the University
of Chicago. Because he spends most of his time locked in his room, on his
computer, ignoring my emails and texts, this is what I hope to share with him
during one of our rare face-to-face encounters.
• Your friends will become your surrogate family once the cruel, Darwinian abandonment of your parents and siblings is complete. And by friends, I refer to those rare few people who will bring you soup when you are sick, correct your tendency toward self-aggrandizement and do whatever onerous favors that are the Digital Age equivalent of driving you to the airport. A Facebook friend will not drag you to the health clinic when you develop a mysterious and fast-spreading rash.
• Read books for pleasure. Buy old books you hope to dive into someday, even if you never do. Cherish the weight of a book on your chest as you fall asleep on a lazy winter afternoon. Books will still be here in 1,000 years. Pinterest will not.
• A dive bar is a social platform. Tumblr is for publicly sharing awful photographs of railroad tracks and snowy branches no one wants to see, not even your mother.
• Despite the ongoing existence of "Transformers,"
a movie is not the first layer of a multi-platform marketing scheme but rather a
singular act of art to be experienced, debated with good friends over food,
drinks and revisited years later. To see a film projected in a common, shared
space is central to the experience; feeling the audience catch its breath when
Peter O'Toole blows out the match in "Lawrence
of Arabia" is a moment you will never forget. You will be hard-pressed to
recall to your children the exact surroundings when you first enjoyed the
serotonin-flooding epiphany that was "Charlie bit my finger" on YouTube.
• Since the age of 20, I have started every day
with strong coffee and several major daily newspapers. A newspaper provides a
robust and reliable frame for my mental visualization of the world. Please do
not let your frame be filled up by the Kardashians, conjoined twins, conspiracy
theories, 46-pound cats and cancer-fighting
Amazon lichens.
• Though I can no longer imagine life before Google or Yelp, I do remember that I was happy, productive and healthy, the sun streamed with equal brightness, and my mind was deeply occupied by the mysteries of the universe.
• Religious extremists, imprisoned serial killers and porn stars have followers. People who read your Twitter feed are probably just avoiding doing their actual work.
• Texting is a wonderful way to avoid the intrusiveness of the average, non-urgent phone call, but outside of that narrow context, it serves only to enable people who cannot write a simple declarative sentence.
• I have nothing helpful to say about your ability to hear, acquire and share new music. I cannot defend playing my vinyl copy of "The White Album" on any terms other than petty nostalgia, and I will take that false moral superiority to my grave.
Finally, a liberal arts education is an idea that has fallen out of favor with my generation and yours, and I am insanely proud that you have chosen that path. Let others pursue a narrow and relentless path toward one percentagery, but remember that very few people wake up every day and look forward to their labors. Most people only look forward to lunch.
Go out and discover the world and yourself. And if you have a chance, read that old copy of "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance." You can ignore the notes scribbled in the margins. I'll explain that phenomenon another time.
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Monday, May 21, 2012
I had an eye opening moment as a parent yesterday....
My daughter is very much like me, when we get emotional or upset about things, we tend to hold them on because we don't want people to feel our hurt or pain. She has been having some thoughts about how she feels as a teenager and all the changes that are coming about and it hurt my heart to know she was holding it all in. She is a smart girl and she was smart enough to go and talk to my BFF's daughter (who is also her age) and she in turn talked to her Mom who talked to me. It felt good to know that she has an outlet to talk to someone and even better to know that she is doing much better after talking with me about how she feels.
Every person has been a teenager and had the feelings of hating Acne, trying to fit in and all the things teenagers deal with but I am proud of my daughter and think she is the most beautiful person inside and out.
Parents make sure you talk to your kids, tell them how you feel and give them that outlet when they need it the most.
It truly takes a village to raise a child..
My daughter is very much like me, when we get emotional or upset about things, we tend to hold them on because we don't want people to feel our hurt or pain. She has been having some thoughts about how she feels as a teenager and all the changes that are coming about and it hurt my heart to know she was holding it all in. She is a smart girl and she was smart enough to go and talk to my BFF's daughter (who is also her age) and she in turn talked to her Mom who talked to me. It felt good to know that she has an outlet to talk to someone and even better to know that she is doing much better after talking with me about how she feels.
Every person has been a teenager and had the feelings of hating Acne, trying to fit in and all the things teenagers deal with but I am proud of my daughter and think she is the most beautiful person inside and out.
Parents make sure you talk to your kids, tell them how you feel and give them that outlet when they need it the most.
It truly takes a village to raise a child..
Friday, May 18, 2012
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Memory Miles - Supporting Veterans though...
Memory Miles - Supporting Veterans though...
May 19th, 2012 – May 31st 2012 – Active Heroes across America will walk, run, hike or bike to complete miles in memory of our Nation’s fallen Heroes and to raise funds for military families in need as part of the Memory Miles annual event. You can get involved this year with our new fundraising pages with tools to engage your friends, families and neighbors and by purchasing the memory miles shirt.
May 19th, 2012 – May 31st 2012 – Active Heroes across America will walk, run, hike or bike to complete miles in memory of our Nation’s fallen Heroes and to raise funds for military families in need as part of the Memory Miles annual event. You can get involved this year with our new fundraising pages with tools to engage your friends, families and neighbors and by purchasing the memory miles shirt.
The world is on my shoulders... HELP
Today is one of those days where I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders... The stress if life is getting to me and I don't know how to control it. I have Work, being a Parent, Cheer, Wedding and just breathing each day seems to be alot for me.
I don't feel like I have time for a break or can catch a break.
I don't feel like I have time for a break or can catch a break.
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Monday, May 14, 2012
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
So Cute, I had to share....
Dear Mr. Someday,
Since you are a male, and I am a female, there is one thing I know for sure: I am going to confuse you sometimes. Probably a lot. So, I thought I’d give you some pointers, now, ahead of time, to help a brother out. Because it would probably be pretty annoying if I was giving you pointers once we were dating. Plus I won’t want to, because I’m going to want you to magically know how todeal with treat me. Amiright, ladies? Oh sorry Mr. Someday, back to you. So, here’s my list of handy dandy tips, which I may casually print and leave lying around somewhere for you to find one day, when you’re mine. (These not in order of importance, or any order at all, really.)
1. Hold my hand. As often as humanly possible. I’ve been waiting for you my. whole. life. I have not settled for less, or wasted time dating people that I knew I wasn’t going to marry, because that’s just not my style. But waiting has not been easy, my friend. Not at all. So please make up for lost time (which wasn’t your fault, but what has that got to do with anything?) and hold my hand as often as you can. In the movies, at the beach, in the grocery store, at the DMV… Whenever, wherever. Even when our hands get sweaty. Even when we get old. The only exception to this rule is if we are hanging out with a single friend, just the three of us, and they are already feeling like a third wheel. That’s just rude. Let’s not do that to them. Ok moving on.
2. Listen. This is a good tip actually for any person who is of the human variety. I learned a lot about this in my counseling classes. I’m going to do a really good job at listening to you, so try to do the same, k? (This is my joking voice, I promise I won’t be this snarky in person… most of the time.) Anyhow, the major tips for good listening: eye contact, body language, empathy (you feel ____ because ____) it sounds stupid but it works. I do it to people all the time and they don’t even know I’m doing my “counselor” thing. They just feel validated. I like feeling validated too.
3. Empathize. Ok I brought that up already because it goes with listening, but it’s worth repeating. Since you are a guy, you are going to want to fix things, because that is just part of your genetic makeup. I am going to appreciate this about you, I promise. Especially when it’s the sink. But when I’m really upset (aka “the ugly cry”) there is nothing you are going to be able to do to fix it. The majority of the time, anyway. It doesn’t matter why I’m upset. (There is often no rhyme or reason to my emotions – this you will learn.) Or if you’ve already realized that you can’t fix it, you may want to say, “everything’s going to be ok” which is very sweet of you and I totally know where you’re coming from with that, but I want to warn you ahead of time that if I’m really upset, I will probably yell, “no it isn’t!” at you. And then you will look at me with puppy dog eyes, and I will feel terribly guilty, and that will only add to my sorrows. So, an alternative option is for you to do that empathy thing I talked about before. Just repeat back what I’m saying that I feel, in a voice that sounds like you understand. (Even if you don’t. It’s ok if you don’t. I don’t, half the time.) And then I will look at you like “You totally get me and are the best boyfriend/husband ever.” And it will be way better than the previous scenario. Another response that will most likely be a winner every time is “I love you.” (If and when you do.) Those words are magical and have healing powers.
4. Lead me. I am stubborn, and strong-willed, and have a slightly rebellious streak and a tendency to question authority all the time. Only people who know me really well know this about me, because most of the time I am mellow and easy going. But when people try to make me do things, I have a strange desire to stomp my feet and cross my arms and tell them I refuse. I guess I just like to be independent and am a bit of a free spirit (that’s the nice, PC way to describe those character qualities… I prefer them to other terms that could be used.) Anyway, this is something I’m always working on, in my relationship with God and other authorities in my life. Despite my desire to be independent and in control, there is a stronger, deeper desire at the core of my being to let go and just be taken care of. (I think if more ladies were honest with themselves, they would admit that they secretly want this too.) If and when I try to take control of you and/or our relationship, stop me. Be a man. Be in control. I will like it, even if I pout about it sometimes. (And I’ll try to do that when you’re not looking.)
5. Put God first. (If I was ordering these appropriately, this would be #1.) Your relationship with Jesus should come before your relationship with me. Just as my relationship with Jesus should come before my relationship with you. (You might have to remind me that sometimes, I’m probably going to be really distracted by you at first, like a shiny new toy. Not to totally objectify you or anything.) But in seriousness, I know that any days/weeks/months, etc when either or both of us is not putting God first, will be the hardest ones in our relationship. And when we are putting Him first, He will bless it and our relationship. Come to think of it… I’m pretty sure the reason that I didn’t put this as number one is because this is the one that I’m most confident you will already know. That’s just the kind of guy I would choose. (Not to toot my own horn or anything.) So thanks for being awesome.
6. Surprise me. It’s ok if you’re not the most creative or romantic guy that has ever walked the earth. Or even close to that. Or even an iota of that, really. It doesn’t take much. It doesn’t have to be fancy, elaborate, or expensive. It just has to be something that I didn’t know was coming, and is a sign that you were thinking of me, or that you went out of your way to do something for me. I’m not even going to list ideas, because I believe in you. You can do this one on your own.
There are a lot of others (make me laugh, take me on adventures, pray for me and with me, tell me stories, tolerate my constant singing and act like you love it, give me space when I need it, hold me when I cry, tell me to stop when I’m being ridiculous, apologize when you’re wrong, forgive me when I’m wrong, love my dogs or at least pretend to… actually no you have to really love them… and the list goes on.) You’ll be good at all those things though, because that’s why I chose you. And we will both make mistakes, and we will learn from them, and it’s going to be an amazing journey, and I can’t wait to start it with you. So hurry up already.
xoxo
Since you are a male, and I am a female, there is one thing I know for sure: I am going to confuse you sometimes. Probably a lot. So, I thought I’d give you some pointers, now, ahead of time, to help a brother out. Because it would probably be pretty annoying if I was giving you pointers once we were dating. Plus I won’t want to, because I’m going to want you to magically know how to
1. Hold my hand. As often as humanly possible. I’ve been waiting for you my. whole. life. I have not settled for less, or wasted time dating people that I knew I wasn’t going to marry, because that’s just not my style. But waiting has not been easy, my friend. Not at all. So please make up for lost time (which wasn’t your fault, but what has that got to do with anything?) and hold my hand as often as you can. In the movies, at the beach, in the grocery store, at the DMV… Whenever, wherever. Even when our hands get sweaty. Even when we get old. The only exception to this rule is if we are hanging out with a single friend, just the three of us, and they are already feeling like a third wheel. That’s just rude. Let’s not do that to them. Ok moving on.
2. Listen. This is a good tip actually for any person who is of the human variety. I learned a lot about this in my counseling classes. I’m going to do a really good job at listening to you, so try to do the same, k? (This is my joking voice, I promise I won’t be this snarky in person… most of the time.) Anyhow, the major tips for good listening: eye contact, body language, empathy (you feel ____ because ____) it sounds stupid but it works. I do it to people all the time and they don’t even know I’m doing my “counselor” thing. They just feel validated. I like feeling validated too.
3. Empathize. Ok I brought that up already because it goes with listening, but it’s worth repeating. Since you are a guy, you are going to want to fix things, because that is just part of your genetic makeup. I am going to appreciate this about you, I promise. Especially when it’s the sink. But when I’m really upset (aka “the ugly cry”) there is nothing you are going to be able to do to fix it. The majority of the time, anyway. It doesn’t matter why I’m upset. (There is often no rhyme or reason to my emotions – this you will learn.) Or if you’ve already realized that you can’t fix it, you may want to say, “everything’s going to be ok” which is very sweet of you and I totally know where you’re coming from with that, but I want to warn you ahead of time that if I’m really upset, I will probably yell, “no it isn’t!” at you. And then you will look at me with puppy dog eyes, and I will feel terribly guilty, and that will only add to my sorrows. So, an alternative option is for you to do that empathy thing I talked about before. Just repeat back what I’m saying that I feel, in a voice that sounds like you understand. (Even if you don’t. It’s ok if you don’t. I don’t, half the time.) And then I will look at you like “You totally get me and are the best boyfriend/husband ever.” And it will be way better than the previous scenario. Another response that will most likely be a winner every time is “I love you.” (If and when you do.) Those words are magical and have healing powers.
4. Lead me. I am stubborn, and strong-willed, and have a slightly rebellious streak and a tendency to question authority all the time. Only people who know me really well know this about me, because most of the time I am mellow and easy going. But when people try to make me do things, I have a strange desire to stomp my feet and cross my arms and tell them I refuse. I guess I just like to be independent and am a bit of a free spirit (that’s the nice, PC way to describe those character qualities… I prefer them to other terms that could be used.) Anyway, this is something I’m always working on, in my relationship with God and other authorities in my life. Despite my desire to be independent and in control, there is a stronger, deeper desire at the core of my being to let go and just be taken care of. (I think if more ladies were honest with themselves, they would admit that they secretly want this too.) If and when I try to take control of you and/or our relationship, stop me. Be a man. Be in control. I will like it, even if I pout about it sometimes. (And I’ll try to do that when you’re not looking.)
5. Put God first. (If I was ordering these appropriately, this would be #1.) Your relationship with Jesus should come before your relationship with me. Just as my relationship with Jesus should come before my relationship with you. (You might have to remind me that sometimes, I’m probably going to be really distracted by you at first, like a shiny new toy. Not to totally objectify you or anything.) But in seriousness, I know that any days/weeks/months, etc when either or both of us is not putting God first, will be the hardest ones in our relationship. And when we are putting Him first, He will bless it and our relationship. Come to think of it… I’m pretty sure the reason that I didn’t put this as number one is because this is the one that I’m most confident you will already know. That’s just the kind of guy I would choose. (Not to toot my own horn or anything.) So thanks for being awesome.
6. Surprise me. It’s ok if you’re not the most creative or romantic guy that has ever walked the earth. Or even close to that. Or even an iota of that, really. It doesn’t take much. It doesn’t have to be fancy, elaborate, or expensive. It just has to be something that I didn’t know was coming, and is a sign that you were thinking of me, or that you went out of your way to do something for me. I’m not even going to list ideas, because I believe in you. You can do this one on your own.
There are a lot of others (make me laugh, take me on adventures, pray for me and with me, tell me stories, tolerate my constant singing and act like you love it, give me space when I need it, hold me when I cry, tell me to stop when I’m being ridiculous, apologize when you’re wrong, forgive me when I’m wrong, love my dogs or at least pretend to… actually no you have to really love them… and the list goes on.) You’ll be good at all those things though, because that’s why I chose you. And we will both make mistakes, and we will learn from them, and it’s going to be an amazing journey, and I can’t wait to start it with you. So hurry up already.
xoxo
Miss You Cousin
I got some bad news yesterday but good news in a sense... My cousin Machelle Woolbright went to be with the lord. I will miss her but I know that she is in a better place.
I will miss you and you calling out the Popsicles. (Insider)
Rest in Peace Machelle.
I will miss you and you calling out the Popsicles. (Insider)
Rest in Peace Machelle.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Kiddie Kitchen
Hey There,
I have started a new blog called Kiddies Kitchen. This blog will be for Kid friendly receipes for Parents to make with their children. I am looking for content from Friends and Family to use on the site so if you have a receipe, dishes or photos of you and your child/children cooking, feel free to send over to me to post. The blog address is http://kiddieskook.blogspot.com/.
All receipes and photos can be submitted to me at miss776@gmail.com.
Thanks!
Jasmine
I have started a new blog called Kiddies Kitchen. This blog will be for Kid friendly receipes for Parents to make with their children. I am looking for content from Friends and Family to use on the site so if you have a receipe, dishes or photos of you and your child/children cooking, feel free to send over to me to post. The blog address is http://kiddieskook.blogspot.com/.
All receipes and photos can be submitted to me at miss776@gmail.com.
Thanks!
Jasmine
Monday, May 7, 2012
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Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Turning 30: 30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know
By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know ...
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know ...
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30
Monday, April 23, 2012
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Thursday, April 12, 2012
25 Things to know about Jasmine
1- My name is Jasmine Nichelle. Jasmine for the flower and Nichelle from the first african american actress on prime time television...can you guess who?
2- My favorite juice is Cranberry of course
3- My favorite superhero is Superwoman. My dad use to call me Superwoman and my sister Wonder Woman when we were little
4- I love to laugh... Its always good for me to do so
5- I am OBSESSED with Food Network... I'm a true foodie
6- I have 5 tattoos
7- I LOVE movies but hate going to the movie theatre. I always seem to be around that person that didn't turn their cell on vibrate or wants to talk at the movie scream
8- My favorite colors are Red and Black......SEXY!
9- I HATE people who drive like idiots then look at you like you are in their way...really??
10- I have never had a hangover ....KNOCK ON WOOD
11- I can sleep for about 12 hours straight if I'm drugged...LOL
12- As much as I love shoes I hate to wear them...LMAO...I can walk bare feet all day everyday
13- I LOVE LOVE LOVE JEANS
14- I LOVE LOVE LOVE Dark Chocolate....I'm thinking about going to the Melting pot for one of my birthday celebrations and just sitting in front of a fondue pot of chocolate
15- I walk around my office all day and tell people that smoking is bad for their health...
16- I love Effen Vodka...... try it you might like it
17- I love my daughter to the moon and back. She is my ace and no one in the world is like her
18- I am my fathers daughter for sure... He is like my twin
19- Italian is my favorite food
20- I love my friends like no other. They are the people who love me when I'm wrong, praise me when I'm right and keep me in Jasmine mode always
21- Deep down I wish I was doctor but being in school that long would drive me a little nutty
22- I have a great personality, or that's what they tell me :)
23- I often daydream about a life that I want to have one day
24- I can't stand when people drive in a lane that says exit only then try to jump over at the last minute... dam LA drivers....LOL
25- I can say my personality starts in my toes and it crinkles my nose... :)
2- My favorite juice is Cranberry of course
3- My favorite superhero is Superwoman. My dad use to call me Superwoman and my sister Wonder Woman when we were little
4- I love to laugh... Its always good for me to do so
5- I am OBSESSED with Food Network... I'm a true foodie
6- I have 5 tattoos
7- I LOVE movies but hate going to the movie theatre. I always seem to be around that person that didn't turn their cell on vibrate or wants to talk at the movie scream
8- My favorite colors are Red and Black......SEXY!
9- I HATE people who drive like idiots then look at you like you are in their way...really??
10- I have never had a hangover ....KNOCK ON WOOD
11- I can sleep for about 12 hours straight if I'm drugged...LOL
12- As much as I love shoes I hate to wear them...LMAO...I can walk bare feet all day everyday
13- I LOVE LOVE LOVE JEANS
14- I LOVE LOVE LOVE Dark Chocolate....I'm thinking about going to the Melting pot for one of my birthday celebrations and just sitting in front of a fondue pot of chocolate
15- I walk around my office all day and tell people that smoking is bad for their health...
16- I love Effen Vodka...... try it you might like it
17- I love my daughter to the moon and back. She is my ace and no one in the world is like her
18- I am my fathers daughter for sure... He is like my twin
19- Italian is my favorite food
20- I love my friends like no other. They are the people who love me when I'm wrong, praise me when I'm right and keep me in Jasmine mode always
21- Deep down I wish I was doctor but being in school that long would drive me a little nutty
22- I have a great personality, or that's what they tell me :)
23- I often daydream about a life that I want to have one day
24- I can't stand when people drive in a lane that says exit only then try to jump over at the last minute... dam LA drivers....LOL
25- I can say my personality starts in my toes and it crinkles my nose... :)
Compton Senior High SchoolTuesday, April 10, 2012
Monday, April 9, 2012
I am not done yet...
I went to Easter service yesterday with my family and Rev. Scott came up with a good analogy that I had not thought of before.... In John Chapter 20 Verse 7, it talks about how when Peter and Mary went to the tomb, they found Jesus handkerchief that was over his eyes neatly folded there in the tomb and the analogy was likened to Dinner Manners.
When you go to dinner and placed your balled up napkin on the table, it means your finished but if you fold it and put it on your chair, it means your not done yet..... Jesus was not done yet and neither am I.
I must admit I have a renewed sense of Church now with Rev. Scott leading the way. I missed Rev. Mason and wished he didn't have to go away but we will see how things go with this leader...
When you go to dinner and placed your balled up napkin on the table, it means your finished but if you fold it and put it on your chair, it means your not done yet..... Jesus was not done yet and neither am I.
I must admit I have a renewed sense of Church now with Rev. Scott leading the way. I missed Rev. Mason and wished he didn't have to go away but we will see how things go with this leader...
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Sean Bell's Fiancee Writes Letter to Trayvon Martin's Parents
Dear Sybrina and Tracy:
As the great Dr. Martin Luther King wrote in his Letter from Birmingham Jail, "Oppressed people cannot remain oppressed forever — the United States Negro is moving with a sense of great urgency toward the promised land of racial justice. If one recognizes this vital urge that has engulfed the Negro community, one should readily understand why public demonstrations are taking place. The Negro has many pent-up resentments and latent frustrations, and he must release them. So let him march; let him make prayer pilgrimages to the city hall. If his repressed emotions are not released in nonviolent ways, they will seek expression through violence; this is not a threat but a fact of history."
I must believe the above paragraph, it is what gets me through the day, especially when I look down at my two little girls. One of which doesn't know her father personally, although; when his picture comes on the television she yells out "Daddy". It is truly a living nightmare to see another innocent young man's life senselessly taken away over his demeanor. It leads me to one question only, how far have we really come since Dr. King's speech, on the steps of the Lincoln memorial in 1963?
This injustice continues to plague our country almost 5 decades later, but it must stop now. The question you might want to ask yourselves is how can I help to diminish these tragedies? The answer is you have already begun. Your voices are being heard all across this nation as peacemakers. People are standing up for Trayvon because they feel your pain, and understand that this could easily have been their son, husband, father, brother, cousin or nephew and we are out right tired of it. Please don't give up the fight for the pursuit of justice.
Over the past five and a half years, what I have learned throughout protest after protest, rallies, a criminal trial, the independent investigation of the federal Department of Justice, along with civil proceedings and the departmental charges hearing almost six years later of the police officers who killed my husband-to-be back in 2006, faith and endurance are the keys to everything. God will not forsake you, and through his grace and mercy you will find the strength to continue please remember this.
Trayvon's death is not in vain, and yes, I know these words may find you a bit too soon in your mourning process to clearly grasp my intentions.
Then again, five and a half years from now, we must not let anyone forget the terrible night your lives changed forever. And in the end, God will have his way. I pray for your strength and well being during this unyielding time.
Internalized Racism
I would hear all the time "the men who killed Sean weren't white", I'm sure you've been hearing the same thing re: George Zimmerman, I believe this is the exact definition of internalized racism. We along with other minorities are conditioned to believe that it's OK to kill us. This has been the primary means by which we have been forced to perpetuate and "agree" to our own oppression. It has been a major factor preventing us, as black people, from realizing and putting into action the tremendous intelligence and power which in reality we possess.
Sincerely your sister at heart,
Nicole Paultre Bell
As the great Dr. Martin Luther King wrote in his Letter from Birmingham Jail, "Oppressed people cannot remain oppressed forever — the United States Negro is moving with a sense of great urgency toward the promised land of racial justice. If one recognizes this vital urge that has engulfed the Negro community, one should readily understand why public demonstrations are taking place. The Negro has many pent-up resentments and latent frustrations, and he must release them. So let him march; let him make prayer pilgrimages to the city hall. If his repressed emotions are not released in nonviolent ways, they will seek expression through violence; this is not a threat but a fact of history."
I must believe the above paragraph, it is what gets me through the day, especially when I look down at my two little girls. One of which doesn't know her father personally, although; when his picture comes on the television she yells out "Daddy". It is truly a living nightmare to see another innocent young man's life senselessly taken away over his demeanor. It leads me to one question only, how far have we really come since Dr. King's speech, on the steps of the Lincoln memorial in 1963?
This injustice continues to plague our country almost 5 decades later, but it must stop now. The question you might want to ask yourselves is how can I help to diminish these tragedies? The answer is you have already begun. Your voices are being heard all across this nation as peacemakers. People are standing up for Trayvon because they feel your pain, and understand that this could easily have been their son, husband, father, brother, cousin or nephew and we are out right tired of it. Please don't give up the fight for the pursuit of justice.
Over the past five and a half years, what I have learned throughout protest after protest, rallies, a criminal trial, the independent investigation of the federal Department of Justice, along with civil proceedings and the departmental charges hearing almost six years later of the police officers who killed my husband-to-be back in 2006, faith and endurance are the keys to everything. God will not forsake you, and through his grace and mercy you will find the strength to continue please remember this.
Trayvon's death is not in vain, and yes, I know these words may find you a bit too soon in your mourning process to clearly grasp my intentions.
Then again, five and a half years from now, we must not let anyone forget the terrible night your lives changed forever. And in the end, God will have his way. I pray for your strength and well being during this unyielding time.
Internalized Racism
I would hear all the time "the men who killed Sean weren't white", I'm sure you've been hearing the same thing re: George Zimmerman, I believe this is the exact definition of internalized racism. We along with other minorities are conditioned to believe that it's OK to kill us. This has been the primary means by which we have been forced to perpetuate and "agree" to our own oppression. It has been a major factor preventing us, as black people, from realizing and putting into action the tremendous intelligence and power which in reality we possess.
Sincerely your sister at heart,
Nicole Paultre Bell
Monday, April 2, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Lotto Wish List
The Lotto is over 500 Million Dollars and like everyone else that is able to play, I am wanting to WIN. Here are just a few things I would LOVE to do with the winnings.
- Pay off Scott and I debts
- Upgrade our wedding (Kim Kardashian watch out... Maybe not that much)
- Start a Foundation for Single Mothers to motivate them and their children
- Buy a House or 2
- Vacation to Italy like I have always wanted to do
- Take care of my Family (Blood and not)
- Invest and Franchise for sure
What would you do with your lotto winnings???
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Times do Change
One of my Bridesmaids asked me today if I was excited about getting married and I say yes, especially since I didn't think I would ever be a Bride. Never she said, Why?
My past is not a sketchy one but it was a roller coaster as far as love was concerned. I tried to love and be loved but it didn't happen the way I wanted it to. My last serious relationship was with my daughter's father and that ended very bad for me...Totally broken hearted.
There after I met guys, liked them but some saw me as a friend or the sister they never had... So I did Classic Jasmine and built a brick wall high to the sky over my heart so it could not feel pain.
And then he came along.... Mr. Scott Cameron, the man that would change my life for the rest of my life and slowly but surely he broke down my wall. Believe me, I gave him hell trying to do it but he was persistent and I'm glad he was.
In 213 days, I will marry my best friend. How cool is that.
It goes to show you to never give up on love, cause it will fight for you.
My past is not a sketchy one but it was a roller coaster as far as love was concerned. I tried to love and be loved but it didn't happen the way I wanted it to. My last serious relationship was with my daughter's father and that ended very bad for me...Totally broken hearted.
There after I met guys, liked them but some saw me as a friend or the sister they never had... So I did Classic Jasmine and built a brick wall high to the sky over my heart so it could not feel pain.
And then he came along.... Mr. Scott Cameron, the man that would change my life for the rest of my life and slowly but surely he broke down my wall. Believe me, I gave him hell trying to do it but he was persistent and I'm glad he was.
In 213 days, I will marry my best friend. How cool is that.
It goes to show you to never give up on love, cause it will fight for you.
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
He is My Man
His name is Scott A. Cameron. He prays like a MAN, leads like a MAN, honors me as his future wife like a MAN, raises and keeps our family united like a MAN, dresses like a MAN, talks like a MAN, thinks like a MAN, eats and drinks like a MAN, behaves like a MAN, learns, cares for, loves and protects like a MAN, aspires to be better, wiser, and more complete like a MAN, makes a way out of no way like a MAN... Why? It's because, the last time I checked..." **how a grown MAN lives - being a MAN means you function as such at all times** #proudtobehiswoman
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
#JusticeforTrayvonMartin
The death of Trayvon Martin, an unarmed teen who was shot while walking in his neighborhood in Sanford, Florida, has sparked allegations of racial profiling and calls for the gunman to be charged.
Federal prosecutors and the FBI will investigate the incident.
George Zimmerman, the neighborhood watch volunteer who has acknowledged shooting Martin, has not been charged and says it was self-defense.
Martin, 17, was killed while walking to his father’s fiancee’s house in Sanford from a nearby convenience store.
Zimmerman first called police at 7:09 p.m. ET with concerns about a suspicious teen in the area, according to 911 tapes released by the Seminole County Sheriff’s Department.
A 16-year-old girl who was on the phone with Martin most of the day last spoke to him around the time the incident allegedly began and lasted until 7:16 p.m. ET, when the call dropped.
Almost immediately, 911 calls began coming in. Police arrived on the scene at 7:17 p.m. Several witnesses called 911 at 7:16, 7:17, 7:18 and 7:19 p.m. ET.
Below are the transcripts of the calls as Zimmerman and witnesses describe what they saw and heard that night:
7:09 p.m. ET Dispatcher: “Do you need police, fire or medical?”
Zimmerman: “We had some break-ins in our neighborhood … and there is a real suspicious guy. … This guy looks like he’s up to no good, he’s on drugs or something. It’s raining, and he’s walking around looking about. “
Dispatcher: “Is this guy white, black, Hispanic?”
Zimmerman: “He looks black.”
Dispatcher: “Did you see what he’s wearing?”
Zimmerman: “A dark hoodie, grey hoodie, jeans or sweatpants or white shoes. He’s walking around staring at the houses. Now he’s just staring at me.”
Dispatcher: “Location?” Zimmerman: “He’s near the clubhouse right now. Now he’s coming towards me. He has his hands in his waistband. He is a black male. Something’s wrong with him. Yep. He’s coming to check me out. He’s got something in his hands. I don’t know what his deal is. Send officers over here.”
Dispatcher: “Let me know if he does anything else.”
Zimmerman: “These a**holes, they always get away. When you come in go straight to the left … when you pass the clubhouse …”
Dispatcher: “Clubhouse?”
Zimmerman: “Go straight in. Oh, s***. He’s running … down towards the other entrance of neighborhood.”
Dispatcher: “He’s running? Which way is he running?”
Zimmerman: “Down towards the other entrance to the neighborhood.” Dispatcher: “Which entrance is that, that he is running towards?
Zimmerman: “The back entrance.” [inaudible]
Dispatcher: “Are you following him?”
Zimmerman: “Yeah.”
Dispatcher: “OK. We don’t need you to do that. What’s your name?”
Zimmerman: “George. Zimmerman.”
Dispatcher: “Do you want to meet with the officer …”
Zimmerman: “Tell them to come past the clubhouse and make a left then past mailboxes and they will see my truck …”
Dispatcher: “What’s your apartment number?”
Zimmerman: “It’s a home. … I don’t want to give that out. I don’t know who this kid is.”
Dispatcher: “I will let them know where to meet you.”
Zimmerman: “Have them call me, and I will let you know where I’m at.”
Federal prosecutors and the FBI will investigate the incident.
George Zimmerman, the neighborhood watch volunteer who has acknowledged shooting Martin, has not been charged and says it was self-defense.
Martin, 17, was killed while walking to his father’s fiancee’s house in Sanford from a nearby convenience store.
Zimmerman first called police at 7:09 p.m. ET with concerns about a suspicious teen in the area, according to 911 tapes released by the Seminole County Sheriff’s Department.
A 16-year-old girl who was on the phone with Martin most of the day last spoke to him around the time the incident allegedly began and lasted until 7:16 p.m. ET, when the call dropped.
Almost immediately, 911 calls began coming in. Police arrived on the scene at 7:17 p.m. Several witnesses called 911 at 7:16, 7:17, 7:18 and 7:19 p.m. ET.
Below are the transcripts of the calls as Zimmerman and witnesses describe what they saw and heard that night:
7:09 p.m. ET Dispatcher: “Do you need police, fire or medical?”
Zimmerman: “We had some break-ins in our neighborhood … and there is a real suspicious guy. … This guy looks like he’s up to no good, he’s on drugs or something. It’s raining, and he’s walking around looking about. “
Dispatcher: “Is this guy white, black, Hispanic?”
Zimmerman: “He looks black.”
Dispatcher: “Did you see what he’s wearing?”
Zimmerman: “A dark hoodie, grey hoodie, jeans or sweatpants or white shoes. He’s walking around staring at the houses. Now he’s just staring at me.”
Dispatcher: “Location?” Zimmerman: “He’s near the clubhouse right now. Now he’s coming towards me. He has his hands in his waistband. He is a black male. Something’s wrong with him. Yep. He’s coming to check me out. He’s got something in his hands. I don’t know what his deal is. Send officers over here.”
Dispatcher: “Let me know if he does anything else.”
Zimmerman: “These a**holes, they always get away. When you come in go straight to the left … when you pass the clubhouse …”
Dispatcher: “Clubhouse?”
Zimmerman: “Go straight in. Oh, s***. He’s running … down towards the other entrance of neighborhood.”
Dispatcher: “He’s running? Which way is he running?”
Zimmerman: “Down towards the other entrance to the neighborhood.” Dispatcher: “Which entrance is that, that he is running towards?
Zimmerman: “The back entrance.” [inaudible]
Dispatcher: “Are you following him?”
Zimmerman: “Yeah.”
Dispatcher: “OK. We don’t need you to do that. What’s your name?”
Zimmerman: “George. Zimmerman.”
Dispatcher: “Do you want to meet with the officer …”
Zimmerman: “Tell them to come past the clubhouse and make a left then past mailboxes and they will see my truck …”
Dispatcher: “What’s your apartment number?”
Zimmerman: “It’s a home. … I don’t want to give that out. I don’t know who this kid is.”
Dispatcher: “I will let them know where to meet you.”
Zimmerman: “Have them call me, and I will let you know where I’m at.”
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Touched by an Angel by Maya Angelou
We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.
Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.
Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free
Monday, March 5, 2012
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Fun Facts About Leap Day
2012 is a leap year, meaning that February, the shortest month, has an extra day, bringing the year to 366 days. This notable event comes only every four years. Which means you have an extra 24 hours. So what will you do with yourself? How about heading to Disneyland for 24 hours straight, catching a movie, or spending the day skiing?
Lookups on the Web are taking a leap, including "leap day activities," along with the quadrennial questions: "what is leap year," "why is there a leap year" and "history of leap year." Here, your guide to the day.
When is it? An extra day is added to the month of February every four years. This year, Leap Day is on Wednesday, February 29.
Why we need Leap Day: Usually, our year is 365 days long. Except that it's not: A full cycle of seasons is actually 365 days, 5 hours, 49 minutes, and 16 seconds long, or about 365.25 days. Over time, the extra quarter of a day adds up, and without Leap Day, the calendar would be one day out of sync with the seasons. After 30 years, it would be about a week off, and after 100 years, it would be nearly a month off.
Bing Quock, the assistant director of Morrison Planetarium at the California Academy of Sciences, explains, "Leap Day is added as a correction to the calendar so that it stays in sync with the seasons ... that way, the seasons start on the same day from year to year to year.
"The history of Leap Year: Leap Year has been around for 2,000 years, since Julius Caesar created the 365-day calendar, although Caesar's astronomer, Sosigenes, get s credit for adding an extra day in February every four years.
How to celebrate: Fans of Disney parks will be lining up to take advantage of "One More Disney Day" at Disneyland in California and at Magic Kingdom in Florida, which will be open for 24 hours, from February 29 at 6 a.m. until 6 a.m. March 1. Michele Himmelberg, a spokesperson for Disney, said it's the first time in recent memory that theme parks on both coasts will be open to mark the quadrennial event. She confirmed the rides will run all night. Hey, come in your PJs.
Leap Year babies probably have the biggest reason to rejoice -- since they see their birthdate only once every four years. Yahoo! searches are in a festive mood with lookups on "leap year birthdays," "leap year birthday cards," and "leap year party ideas." Good news for ski bums born on February 29: Show your Leap Year birthday date and get a free stay at Mammoth ski resorts.
If you prefer to mark the extra day on your couch, there's always "Leap Day," the movie. The 2010 romantic comedy stars Amy Adams and is based on an Irish tradition that a man must say yes to a woman who proposes to him on Leap Day. Some NBC shows have already run their Leap Day-themed episodes, which included "30 Rock's" alternative-universe idea that Leap Day is celebrated like an actual holiday and even has a mascot, "Leap Day William" (Jim Carrey), who stars in a "Groundhog Day"-type movie with Andie MacDowell. Its message: Take a leap.
Lookups on the Web are taking a leap, including "leap day activities," along with the quadrennial questions: "what is leap year," "why is there a leap year" and "history of leap year." Here, your guide to the day.
When is it? An extra day is added to the month of February every four years. This year, Leap Day is on Wednesday, February 29.
Why we need Leap Day: Usually, our year is 365 days long. Except that it's not: A full cycle of seasons is actually 365 days, 5 hours, 49 minutes, and 16 seconds long, or about 365.25 days. Over time, the extra quarter of a day adds up, and without Leap Day, the calendar would be one day out of sync with the seasons. After 30 years, it would be about a week off, and after 100 years, it would be nearly a month off.
Bing Quock, the assistant director of Morrison Planetarium at the California Academy of Sciences, explains, "Leap Day is added as a correction to the calendar so that it stays in sync with the seasons ... that way, the seasons start on the same day from year to year to year.
"The history of Leap Year: Leap Year has been around for 2,000 years, since Julius Caesar created the 365-day calendar, although Caesar's astronomer, Sosigenes, get s credit for adding an extra day in February every four years.
How to celebrate: Fans of Disney parks will be lining up to take advantage of "One More Disney Day" at Disneyland in California and at Magic Kingdom in Florida, which will be open for 24 hours, from February 29 at 6 a.m. until 6 a.m. March 1. Michele Himmelberg, a spokesperson for Disney, said it's the first time in recent memory that theme parks on both coasts will be open to mark the quadrennial event. She confirmed the rides will run all night. Hey, come in your PJs.
Leap Year babies probably have the biggest reason to rejoice -- since they see their birthdate only once every four years. Yahoo! searches are in a festive mood with lookups on "leap year birthdays," "leap year birthday cards," and "leap year party ideas." Good news for ski bums born on February 29: Show your Leap Year birthday date and get a free stay at Mammoth ski resorts.
If you prefer to mark the extra day on your couch, there's always "Leap Day," the movie. The 2010 romantic comedy stars Amy Adams and is based on an Irish tradition that a man must say yes to a woman who proposes to him on Leap Day. Some NBC shows have already run their Leap Day-themed episodes, which included "30 Rock's" alternative-universe idea that Leap Day is celebrated like an actual holiday and even has a mascot, "Leap Day William" (Jim Carrey), who stars in a "Groundhog Day"-type movie with Andie MacDowell. Its message: Take a leap.
Monday, February 27, 2012
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VOTE FOR US
Maggiano's Italian Restaurant is having a contest for a Honeymoon for an
Engaged couple and Scott and I have been entered. Read our story and vote for
us! Love Ya!
http://blisslist.maggianos.com/entry/243980
Engaged couple and Scott and I have been entered. Read our story and vote for
us! Love Ya!
http://blisslist.maggianos.com/entry/243980
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Octopus
I have now compare myself to being an Octopus.... Juggling different things going on and getting them done by hook or by crook. I feel like I am accomplishing a few things and that makes me feel good.... 2012 is definitely going to be a good year
Monday, February 6, 2012
Friday, February 3, 2012
Friday, January 27, 2012
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Busy!!
Right now... I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster. There is alot going on for me in 2012 and I want everything to be as close to perfect as I can get it. With Jacelyn going to Florida for school for a week in June, Us moving in as a family in the Summer and the Wedding in the fall, I feel like there is alot to do and little time to try and do it all in.........Pray for me.
Friday, January 20, 2012
Positive
I practiced positivity.. I smiled when I wanted to cry, I walked away when I wanted to stay, I counted to ten when I wanted to choke someone. I backed away when asked, I let go of some things because it was time.In this, I found myself happy, and joyous, I am in a very good place nothing but positive vibes radiating from my soul. Enjoy life, friends, family..but most important..enjoy being yourself!.....
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
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